> Colossians 3 is divided in verses 9-10 where is talks about putting off the old man and putting on the new man. There are general characteristics of the new man and then this section on authority and submission in three spheres of relationships. It is instructive to note a similar pattern in Ephesians 5 and the similarity between 5.18 and 3.9-10.
> Success in marriage consists not only in finding the right mate, but also in being the right mate. --anon.
> Adam and Eve didn't get to chose their mate, and their was no provision for starting over.
> PROPOSITIONAL STATEMENT: Paul describes how the "new man" affects the marriage relationship.
I. WIVES AND THE NEW MAN (v.18)
A. WHAT: Be subject to your own husbands
B. WHY: It is fit in the Lord
> "The word is uded of actions that are due someone." ---K Wuest
> "He command wives to be subject. This is clear, but what follows is of doubtful signification--as it is fit in the Lord. For some connect it thus-- "But sbject in the Lord, as it is fit." I, however, view it rather differently, --As it is fit in the Lord, that is, according to the appointment of the Lord, so that He confirms tha esubjection of wives by the authority of God." --John Calvin
1. VIEW: Some see this phrase as answering the question, "How is the wife to submit?" In the manner the Lord would want you to.
BASIS: Point to the comparative sense of os.
EMPHASIS: That the submission should be done in a manner that pleases the Lord.
2. VIEW: Some see this phrase as answering the question, "Why is the wife to submit: Because it is proper in the Lord.
BASIS: Point to the past tense of "fit" which perhaps indicates that this obligation is known by reasoning from what is self-evident.
Point to the fact that this would parallel the thought in verse twenty-four (also 3.24 & 4.1).
EMPHASIS:That the wife should submit because it is in accordance with the Lord's will.
> Who is our chief example of submission? Christ
> Was Christ's submission to the father undesirable, humiliating, or unpleasant?
> Bad attitudes about the Biblical concept of submission slanders the Trinity.
> It is not an action, but an attitude that transforms actions.
II. HUSBANDS AND THE NEW MAN
What does Christian headship or leadership look like? Jesus explains in Matthew 20.25-28
A. WHAT: Love your wife
> "To be sure, all believers are admonished to love one another; but the love of a husband for his wife has a special character, ideally modeled on that of Christ for His church, which means that it is much more that a sentiment." --E.F. Harrison